Taking things personally is a sign that you may be sensitive to others' words or actions, or you tend to interpret things negatively. You may assume someone doesn't like you if they walk by and do not say hello or take what someone says as an insult. When you take things personally, you feel inadequate, ashamed, o even angry at yourself or the other person. It is quite disempowering and is detrimental to your self-esteem.
When you take something personally, it is actually a reflection of your insecurities and low self-esteem. Deep down inside, it reinforces your negative thoughts about yourself. Your negative thoughts are your perception of yourself.
It is not what others see, and it does not reflect your actual self-worth. Therefore, your negative thoughts are a distorted version of reality.
Possibly, you view something as a personal attack or misinterpret the words or act negatively. You may even feel that your mistakes or flaws have been exposed. Essentially, this can be quite problematic if you base your self-worth on approval from others.
You can stop taking things so personally and increase your self-esteem.
Here are some tips:
1. Know your worth. You will not believe what other people think and say about you when you like and know who you are.
2. Realize that other people's rudeness is not about you. When someone is rude, it is a reflection of their own issues and insecurities.
3. Ask yourself what else the comment or behavior might mean. If someone doesn't smile or say hello, he or she might be shy.
4. Constructively take comments or criticism. Ask yourself if it is accurate and what you can learn.
5. Take a different perspective. Ask yourself how an unbiased outsider might see the situation.
6. Realize that you can't please everyone. Let things go.
7. Acknowledge that you are not defined by your mistakes or criticism.
8. Realize that your self-worth depends on you. It is not dependent on the approval of others or what someone says about you.
Not taking things personally does require effort. However, it is definitely worth it. You will discover that you are happier, have more self-esteem, and overall better quality of life when you stop taking things personally.
Remember, you are WORTH it!