Dealing with Hypercritical People

Constructive criticism is acceptable, but some people are unceasingly negative that they can suck the joy out of life. It doesn't matter what happy news you might have; they are guaranteed to find the cloud to fit your silver lining.

Here are six tips you can use to deal with hypercritical people.

Don't Take It Personally:

It's a safe bet that it's not you; it's them. Some people hug their negativity around them like a security blanket, which skews their view of the world. They criticize everything because that suits them. Watch how they treat other people. They criticize everybody, not just you.

Listen to The Message:

Is the person masking the message? Perhaps your critical coworker or friend is insensitive or bad at expressing themselves rather than being mean. Try to see past the person presenting the message to understand what is really being said; otherwise, you might miss some valuable advice.

Accept the Feedback:

You can choose to take crucial feedback on its own merits; as a source of honest feedback. At least with overly critical people, what you see is what you get! If you can see past the straight-forward delivery, you may be able to find a nugget of truth that may improve the way you do things.

Deal with Your Discomfort:

Criticism never feels good. Try to see your own discomfort as another source of information about what is being said. Does the feedback trigger a recognition deep within you? Maybe it reminds you of a past situation, but maybe there's a ring of truth in the criticism. Sit with your discomfort and see what it's telling you.

If You Can't Take the Heat, Stay Out of the Kitchen:

If you can't stand being criticized, then it's up to you not to get into situations with people who are likely to criticize you. Please don't ask for advice or expose yourself to their negativity. They are not likely to change, so you need to take control and avoid such interactions. Don't share good news if you know they'll spew negativity on it, don't seek their praise if you know you won't get it.

Stay Out of Their Way:

You always have a choice about how you deal with negative people. You can decide not to engage with them, ignore them, or you can avoid them altogether. For example, if you must contact a negative person at work, be helpful but don't engage with them. Otherwise, it's up to you whether you want to have any contact with such negativity or not.



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